Love is work. Love is sacrifice. Love isn’t easy.
And if you’re anything like me, the greatest sacrifice … is not getting my way.
This week’s Advice4Life show delves into a scenario that I don’t think is that uncommon to the radio audience… “What do you do when you and your partner are both used to getting your way?”
Al Laws and Gregg Harris puts it simply… what means more to you? Passion or purpose? In other words, what means more – the intensity of your feelings at that particular moment or your entire reason for being in the relationship in the first place?
Your entire reason for being in a relationship is to love. Your ultimate goal in a relationship is to be at peace. When you’re in a combative situation with your partner who also is accustomed to “winning”, it might be helpful to look past what he or she is doing and focus on what they are intending to do. At that point, you are saying to yourself, “I want to put down my desire to be right and focus on their intention.”
What’ll that do? The moment you say, “I understand…” opens up areas of healthy discussion. They can either agree or point you in the right direction. You might say, “I understand that you want to do this or you want to accomplish that…” and it’ll be up to your partner to confirm or say “No, what I want is…”
It’s a tough pill to swallow, but when we decide to love someone, we are making the decision to lay down our own personal interests for the well-being and happiness of someone else. While most of us readily make this commitment, others need a little more convincing. So think of it this way: Rather than sacrificing your chance to get your way or win an argument, the real sacrifice is simply making the decision to understand your partner. Sounds a little easier, right? Go ahead and try it today.
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